It has certainly been a weekend of some of the wildest weather we have seen arrive all on the same polar express and it has lead me to know that Spring has sprung in Toronto. The April showers idea was a bit extreme though.
When I last wrote I was offering up Part 1 of my article, Love: A Complex Mystery. I started to explore the idea of love, how it permeates our music, movies and novels. Our ideas of what love is and what love should be, are informed through the arts, media and advertisers, especially the fashion and cosmetic industries.
Is it possible our understanding of love has become disproportionately skewed towards a romanticised unattainable mythology? While the characters and circumstances of books and movies appear to be very different, mostly the mythology ends very much the same each time, ‘and they all lived happily ever after’. Looking back, I can see the majority of people I have known throughout my career and personal life, all had relationship issues. Often sitting on the edge of their own Hollywood drama, the expectations on their partners and of loving another were difficult at best and often left both parties hurt, angry and disillusioned.
Love is used to meet many of our needs and reassures us that we really must be Okay. It has been used to manipulate and leave us feeling embarrassed and abandoned. We may wait for the times we want to hear ‘l love you’, spoken not in a soft tone but screamed at us as we encounter the domestic disturbance we called home. Although much harm and violence has occurred ‘in the name of love’, love of home, of our family, our country, our religion and even our God, love is and continues to be a formidable force in our human experience and psyche.
When we encounter love in our life, or when we can recognize how much love there is, not just from our spouse or our self but from our family, friends, co-workers and even neighbours, we stand taller and smile more easily. Surrounded by love we feel our energy shift and expand.
This mysterious energy called love, embraces us with its strength and desire to be compassionate and kind. We experience our self in a light that knows no other intensity and a light that illuminates so brightly it never burns out.
What then is this powerhouse of exhilarating energy we call Love? Love is not an emotion. Love is not something we fall into, like falling into a sinkhole in the ground only to be enveloped in this dark cave. Love is a collection of experiences involving our senses, our feelings and our spiritual intuitiveness. Love is a collective experience of our humanness. Perhaps though, it is more than this.
Consider how our blood courses through our bodies, our organs and brain connecting all of our parts to the greater whole. We feel complete as our blood nourishes every part of our beingness, the physical, the mental, emotional and spiritual bodies. As blood is to our earth body then perhaps love is the etheric energy connecting our physical and mental bodies to our spirit and soul. The sheer mystery of an energy that has the potential to make us feel so powerfully connected yet it is not an emotion or a feeling. It is not of our analytical mind since we can analyse our beliefs about love and never arrive at an explanation we all agree with.
Even in light of all the research, we are left with a mystery that is there for us to embrace. To embrace love as the spiritual energy it is. Love is the expressive energy of our Spirit and it serves as our soul’s way of expressing itself through our earthly existence of body and mind. Love is the energy that belongs to the realms of the Divine and not the romanticised feeling belonging to the world of lovers.
We need to know deep in our hearts that we are surrounded by love from many sources and allow our hearts to fill with love then sending it back out, embracing others and our planet. Knowing deep down we are lovable just as we are, without seeking validation by entering a union with another. Which is exactly a perfect place to love and grow love, so long as the intention isn’t to prove your worth as a person. Love neither criticizes nor judges but seeks to connect.
“…recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
In the spirit of connection,
Until next time
Be Well and Live Well.
~ Gord Riddell