The Soul/Ego Relationship
The Soul/Ego Relationship
By Kathy Ryndak and Gord Riddell
An often-asked question is: How do you tell the difference between your soul trying to give you a message versus your ego giving you one? Now in order to make sense of this article a couple of assumptions are being made: the first being every human being has a soul, the second assumption being that each soul has a map or blueprint as to what kind of learning is needed for the soul's continuing development and finally that every soul chooses a human body and personality as the vehicle for its learning. That being said we can proceed to look at how the voice of the soul is quite different from the voice of the ego.
The ego has been given a bit of a bad rap and is often viewed as something to get rid of and overcome. However, the above assumption must once again be restated that, the soul chooses the ego/personality as a vehicle of expression. In other words, the soul is incapable, due to its energetic nature, of actualizing into the physical world yet it needs the challenge of the physical in order to grow. As a result, the human body and ego, is how it chooses to express itself. The ego becomes a formidable challenge as the soul tries to gently steer itself towards its blueprint while all the time being confronted with this opposing force, the ego. It is from this conflict that the concept of free will arises. We are free to move through the soul/ego conflict and listen to the inner voice of the soul or we are free to listen to the very loud voice of the ego.
The ego, as it is part of the physical world, is outwardly motivated and is outwardly rewarded. It derives satisfaction from all things external. It is motivated by power, money, sex and recognition. It is subject to attachment to people, places and things, from mild to the extreme form of attachments-addiction. The ego is almost invariably driven by fear and is more interested in getting it's own needs met over the needs of any one else. While this is painting a fairly bleak picture of the ego, it is important to recognize how the ego functions so we can learn to understand that the ego can be taught to become a partner with the soul and not it's opposing force. The ego without a relationship to the soul is most likely to exhibit the darker side of itself such as outlined previously but the ego does have a light side and can be persuaded with some work to move from its darker expression to that of light.
The soul is an energy connected to the universe. As with all universal energies it is manifested on this planet through living things whether they are plants, animals or humans. The soul is our link to the divine and our source to wisdom. It finds its expression through our spirituality, creativity, sensuality and compassion. In many ways, it is the polar opposite of the ego. It does not seek external rewards of stimulation. It is concerned with moving itself and its vehicle towards completing the blueprint it has developed for this particular lifetime. Its voice is soft and gentle and is a challenge to hear over and above the loud persistence of the ego.
The voice of the soul is often symbolic. It requires us to be conscious of the signs and signals it will send to us. The more in tune we are with it, the less mysterious it is and the less we have to work. The soul, often in the beginning, speaks to us through our dreams and meditations. It is a symbolic language gently trying to give us a push in the right direction. Outside signals may come from external events often referred to as synchronicity. An example could be something you have been wanting to do alot and the opportunity to do it, without much effort, arises. Very often in the beginning we turn a blind eye to these symbols and miss the direction we are been urged to take. Remember, we have free will we do not have to listen to the soul. Even if we never listen to a thing it says about the direction the soul wishes to go, the soul will still learn from every thing we do and experience.
The soul in spite of free will can be persistent though. If you have ever attempted to make what you thought was a really good idea happen and met with nothing but obstacles, then you have encountered the gentle persistence of the soul trying to let you know this is not its idea but the ego's trying to get somewhere and is out of sync with the soul. The soul as we become more in tune with it is not so gentle or so kind in its effort to get our attention and get us back on track. It can be akin to being hit over the head with a plank. It certainly gets your attention and forces you to look inwards as to the direction you should be going. If you are stuck in a situation and will not or think you cannot do anything about it, whether it is a job, a relationship or a specific behaviour and it is a detriment to your growth and where you need to go, your soul will intervene.
The primary intervention the soul will create is to have your ego experience a major loss. It could be loss of a job, your health, or a divorce. Since the ego is most susceptible to attachments, then a sure fire way to get you to look and listen, is to alter an attachment and create what is called a dark night of the soul. It is a bit of a misnomer because it is actually a dark night of the ego. While we are in the feelings of our loss with a profound sense of emptiness, the soul energy is pulled back just enough so that the ego is forced to examine itself and the path it has been on. Anyone who has been through this kind of experience will be the first to say, while not fun, it is a life altering experience that leads to bigger, better and more fulfilling things.
So where do we go with this conflict? Well, it is only a conflict until we work towards creating a working partnership between the ego and the soul. This is done by recognizing the language of your soul, interpreting its signs and signals and looking to implementing them into your life. If you have a strong gut reaction or intuitive response to something, follow through. If it's source is your ego, then your soul will let you know and create an obstacle for you. Recognize the obstacle and re-examine what you are trying to make happen. Risk being wrong in order to be better able to read your soul's messages.
If you have been hit by the proverbial plank to the back of the head and going through a major loss, know you have done nothing wrong but it is time for a big change in your life and that is all. Finding yourself at fault or victimized by these life events will only disempower you and create one more obstacle you will have to struggle through. Be patient and the learning as to why these things have happened will become apparent. Sit quietly and work on the relationship between your ego and your soul, they need each other in order to truly grow.