Living with Passion
Living With Passion
By Kathy Ryndak and Gord Riddell
In every person there dwells an incredible force called passion. For many it is experienced occasionally in small bursts of energy. For others it is a lived sense of inner power propelling the person forward with a vigor and commitment in all that they do. Passion is an outward expression of our Spiritual self which fuels our inner energy. Those living with passion have intense and long lasting energy reserves. They do not tire all that easily as they are being recharged continuously by their spirit.
Much has been written about passion. It is said that by living our passion all our material needs are somehow magnetically drawn to us and we will be fulfilled. However tapping into the passion of our Spirit is not as easy as we are lead to believe. Many people have difficulties in identifying what in their life makes them feel passionate, excited and alive. Many do not trust that this may be what our spirit wants in spite of the feelings they generate or do not trust themselves to follow through to actually live their passion.
We all have, somewhere within us, interests that really do hold our attention and get us excited but our passion can be blocked by our egos and belief systems, about what our world is supposed to look like and what we are supposed to do with our life. For many people the lack of spiritual energy and not living with our passions can cause a feeling of being stuck, lethargy and depression all the way through to physical illness. Living our passion in turn puts us into a spiritual alignment assisting us at every level of mind, body and soul. Much has been written of how, if we live of passions, the money will flow and it can be true. However, living our passions is much more involved than just money or wealth it is a spiritual belief system of the interconnectedness of all aspects of our life from Health to Happiness.
Identifying our Passions
It is important to recognize that unless we identify our passions, planning a vision or goal to work towards will be very difficult and next to impossible to attain. To help identify our passions we must be willing to let go of our inner judgments, our list of 'shoulds' and our learned belief system of how life is supposed to be. We need to put aside what we think other people expect of us and how they expect us to live our life. This is a lot to put aside but these are all the things that stand in the way of getting in touch with some of our passions.
- Now in a calm state remember some of your childhood interests. What about your childhood dreams? As you remember them perhaps you have already done some of them and are living them. Some of your other dreams may have been dashed by others as impractical or too much work or you do not have the abilities to do these things. Remember those ones as well. They were other people's beliefs about you and may not be true in the least.
- On a sheet of paper write down these old memories and see if they are still things that excite you. These may form the basis for some of your passions today as an adult.
- On another piece of paper let your imagination run wild and list all the things that make you feel excited, energized and creative. Try not to edit yourself, simply let everything flow through your mind onto paper. Do this in your own handwriting rather than on a computer. It can be much more powerful to see things in your own handwriting.
- When you feel you are finished, go over your list and see what you wrote. How do you experience this list of things that energize and excite you? You may feel excited seeing this list or you may have an inner critical voice poking at the silliness of this exercise as well your list. Ignore the critical voice!
- What things from this list are in your life today? Perhaps you are one of the few people who are living their passion. What from your list would you like to see happen in your life? Have you tried to bring one of your passions into your life but without success?
What Motivates You
While we have identified that our passion is an expression of our Spirit, we need to look at how our ego and belief systems interact with our ability to live our passions. Rather that spending enormous amounts of time going through our entire belief system, an easier route is to identify what motivates you. This requires us to be very honest with our self (even when we may not want to be) in order to know what keeps us going in the direction we have been going. We need to know what payoffs we get from some of our interests and behaviours.
Payoffs are crucial aspects of our self because we only do things that have a pay back that feeds our ego. If someone says their passion is to heal the planet it will only be successful if their motivators are incorporated into the overall plan of action. Regretfully very few people are so completely altruistic that their ego does need recognition in their life. Everything we do has a payoff of some sort. We only stop doing things in our life when there is no longer a payoff.
A motivator may be money, recognition, a sense of feeling loved and appreciated or not feeling pain or discomfort. They are all tied to the ego and its perception of the world. There is no judgment here; it is a human reality that we must come to terms with. All of our behaviour is tied to this perception of how we handle the world. Now on a piece of paper write down what you believe motivates your behaviour and interaction in your world. This is not an especially easy exercise but it is a necessary one.
Once you have done this exercise take a look at your passions and see where your motivators fit in. If you wish to bring your passions into your life they need to be able to incorporate your motivators. While your Spirit and your Ego may seem to be opposing forces, they can be reconciled to work together and move us into a life more in line with the passion of our Spirit and the strength of our Ego. If for example your passion is to work with children, what might your motivator be? Perhaps they make you feel loved and appreciated. Perhaps your Passion may be for animals, could it be their unconditional love you are motivated by? Perhaps the vulnerability of children and animals makes us feel strong and powerful or in control. This is not to say that your love for children or animals in this example is not there, the question is at a deeper level what do you get out of this interest.
When you can take your list of passions and your list of motivators and begin to match them up, you are well on your way to living your passions. If you have tried unsuccessfully in the past to live your passions perhaps what was missing was what would be motivating you. Reconciling your spirit and your ego needs (as both are vitally important) leads to all sorts of wonderful changes, realizations and achieved passions. A reality check on our passions is also important. Deciding that your childhood dream to be a brain surgeon can be pursued but you are now 55 years old is not realistic. It was doable at 21. There needs to be a reality of where you are today on your journey as to the viability of your passionate interests. Variations are possible to fit with your reality. Perhaps this will help make your New Years resolution a bit easier to make happen this year. Happy Holidays from everyone at Transformational Arts!