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Rebirth into Self-love

“Rebirth into Self-love”
Conscious Living – Vitality April 2015

By Gord Riddell & Kathy Ryndak 

One of the coldest winters on record made many of us hibernate like bears staying in our caves to survive the elements. In this state, we might have become fairly unconscious spiritually and numbed out by being a couch potato watching too much TV. A mild depression could have even set in since we could not get out for an enjoyable walk to take in the sunlight and generate Vitamin D. For those who live on their own, too much hibernating causes us to isolate. We can start to shut down by our inactivity or spend too much time ruminating on thoughts that don’t serve us.

Well, let’s cancel, clear and delete the above thinking! As I write this column, we have turned the corner into Spring and I have never seen so many smiling faces in my neighbourhood! There is much to celebrate about Spring and rebirth. Songs like “April in Paris” or “I love Paris in the Springtime” are the ear worms that run through my head. The energy of Spring allows us to rebirth of ourselves, transform, partake in new creative endeavours and refresh our vision and intentions. 

We want to fall in love in Spring and there is actual scientific truth for this. Everything has become alive again with the newness of spring — birds singing, flowers blooming, green space and so many new colours and scents instead of gray scale. According to Sanden Totton, “There is a lot of new stimuli that triggers the brain to drive up dopamine and make you more susceptible to love. Every April, your brain unwittingly becomes a dopamine factory, turning you into a love junkie. In fact, brain scans of people flooded with the stuff look a lot like brain scans of drug addicts. Which makes sense, since being high on dopamine feels, as many lovers would put it, euphoric.” 

Rather than focusing on romantic love, let us use the natural euphoria of Spring to wake up and fall passionately in love with ourselves again. We all know that when we love ourselves we become more appealing to others, as well. 

When we really do love ourselves, our light shines brighter, we feel better and our lives become more satisfying internally and externally. We attract what we are in the inside. Self-love is a wonderful aphrodisiac to attract more love, joy, abundance and prosperity for your life. It makes us more lovable to other people. Let’s look at some ways we can practice the art of self-love in our life. 

Falling in love with yourself requires inner work but here are some simple things you can do this month to start the process. 

1. Loving yourself means accepting yourself as you are right now and loving both your strengths and limitations. It’s okay to be imperfect, in fact, perfectly normal! Make a list about what you really love about yourself. Send love to the parts of you that are imperfect. 

2. Love yourself like a loving friend or partner loves you. Be kind, gentle and compassionate with yourself. Remember to be patient with yourself when you make mistakes. 

3. Make sure you check your inner critic that makes negative statements about you. Counter them with positive, loving thoughts.

4. Observe your stream of consciousness and check yourself when you are at a lower vibration. Hold intentions that are positive and life enhancing. 

5. Sometimes an incident that we experience may trigger old shaming memories. In that moment, when you feel that shame, send love to your inner child for healing. 

6. Pat yourself on the back for everything that is wonderful about you. Practice self-praising on a daily basis without becoming egocentric. 

7. Forgive yourself and others for things that have happened in the past. This is such an act of self-love as you will no longer carry the heavy burden.

8. Do mirror work with affirmations. When you look in the mirror, don’t go to criticism – oh my God I have to lose weight! Instead, look into your own eyes and love the essence that shines through affirming that God or the Divine is within you. 

9. Mirror work will also make you aware immediately of any resistance and faulty beliefs that you can turn around and transform. 

10. Nurture your body with healthy foods and physical movement. Have chocolate! Nurture your spirit with meditation.

11. Do comforting things and treat yourself with a massage, a spa day or flowers. You deserve pleasure in your life.

12. Buy some new spring clothes and simply get your hair done. We always feel fantastic when we look good. 

13. Associate with positive people – you will uplift each other’s spirits.

14. Limit your time with negative people or those who always complain or are draining. Karen Salmonsohn states “If someone is trying to pull you down that means they are already beneath you.”

15. Hug someone, including yourself and pets. When we touch with intimacy we release the ‘feel good’ hormone, oxytocin.

16. Reach out for support when you need it. It’s just a phone call or a visit away. You don’t have to go it alone.

17. Choose joy! It is usually the small things in life that bring us joy. Intend to make joy a daily practice. 

18. Get in touch with nature by peaceful walks or cultivating your garden or plants. Let the Divine in nature reflect your own Divinity back to you. 

When we fall in love with ourselves we truly meet our ‘Beloved’ who is not someone who exists outside of us but is actually a beautiful archetypal part of ourselves. As the law of attraction goes, this opens us up to connect with equally loving people in our life. 


Gord Riddell and Kathy Ryndak are therapists and co-founders of the Transformational Arts College of Spiritual and Holistic Training. The College offers professional training programs in Spiritual Psychotherapy, Spiritual Director, Holistic Health, Coaching and psychospiritual courses through a 10-part program “Discovering the Total Self”. For more information on these programs, call the College at 416-484-0454 or toll free 1-800-TAC-SELF or visit To receive our monthly e-newsletter email